Why do I have to be someone I’m not?

📖 Note: This post is from the archives. It may reflect outdated views or a previous name.

So — I don’t know about you, but for most of my life I have been under pressure to be someone I’m not. Family, teachers and peers all want the “best” for you, but won’t slow down to consider if it’s what you actually want. I am terrible at relating to my teenage acquaintances. I would rather converse with adults, as they’re more mature than teenagers. I am constantly receiving flak for surrounding myself with adults. Society is great at pushing expectations and often they’re useless at that. Many believe that everyone must finish high school, go to university, get married and make lots of money to be happy. I do not. I believe in order to be happy, I must fund experiences, learn lots, be passionate and never settle.

I have been on this planet for sixteen years and most would take my blossoming existence as inexperience. I let my optimism drive me forward, without fear of failure because I am determined that there are more doors to be opened. Throughout my life, I have witnessed so many people deprive the world of the chance to know them because of their fear of rejection. I used to chase acceptance until I realized what I was doing. I stopped because my once-original piece, was becoming a generic photocopy of someone else.

I am very strategic and love to think ten steps ahead of everyone else. Occasionally difficult predicaments will come about, forcing me to make difficult decisions. I have always gone with the option that seemed “risky” in the moment, but brought more success than staying on the safe-side ever could. Here are a couple of things I would recommend to anyone, hoping to find happiness, passion and experiences:

1. Reflect on the now. I know so many people who’re frozen in their inaction for fear of the consequences. They aren’t sure of what’s going to happen and they’re too shy to open themselves up to the possibilities. You should ponder why you’re doing what you are and if you’re not satisfied, venture off into a direction that may help you achieve what you’re after.

2. Do not take “no” for an answer. For a large chunk of my life, I was a breathing punching bag. Until I realized I was in control of what happens to me, nothing changed. I have learned to say no, which can be difficult to do in some situations. Don’t ask for permission to live your life because after all, it’s your life. Don’t live the life your family want for you, live the life you want for you.

So, stop chasing someone else’s dream and put in the effort to find your own. Life is short and I definitely do not want to be on my death bed regretting my inactions.